Develop Better Relationships and You'll Always be In A 'Win Win' Position

Happy and successful relationships are based on a clear understanding of yourself, how you relate to others and use the principles of good communication.

Whether it’s a personal, business or working relationship, if you want to get the best out of it, there needs to be some respect and compromise on both sides. You may start out trying to get others to change. That's not always possibe of course; sometimes you just have to agree to disagree but don’t take it as a personal affront.

Don’t be pressured into doing things that you are not comfortable with just because some of your friends are doing them (some people include business networking in this catagory) Form your own opinions and you'll be more respected for doing so.

Here are some tips and techniques clients have found useful in helping them to improve their relationships.

We teach people how to treat us, but we can always reopen the negotiation. Do so from a position that includes the resolve to be treated with dignity and respect. But first of all make sure you treat yourself with the dignity and respect you rightly deserve.

Identify a relationship in your life that needs to be renegotiated and open negotiations!

The advantage of anticipating other people’s behaviour

Step into their shoes and role play in your mind what’s likely to happen. Consider different scenarios and prepare your responses accordingly. Your confidence will be boosted by making sure you are well prepared.

Encourage others to do likewise. Boosting their confidence will add even more to your own.

Practice giving compliments to others

Making others feel good, will make you feel good too. If you feel good about yourself you are bound to be more successful.

Promise yourself that you’ll find 3 things to compliment others on before the end of the day.

Do unto others….

Take care when you criticise others. It takes ten items of praise to balance one item of criticism. Balance your (constructive) criticism with praise.

Practice giving the ‘feed-back’ sandwich. Encouragement; Criticism; Encouragement.

How to control your response to being shouted at

Practice with a friend shouting in your face, telling you to do as you are told, until you realise it can’t hurt you. Each time they shout, say calmly ‘You don’t frighten me at all’ –because after a while you’ll come to realise that they won’t!

Do it and notice how your feelings change

Learn to accept compliments

By accepting compliments with good grace,without any shyness or embarrassment ,not only will it boost your own confidence ,it will help boost the confidence of others. It can do nothing but add to your own success.

Get used to saying ‘thank you’ without filling any silence that may follow.

How to avoid making snap decisions

Practice in your mind saying ‘I need to consider this further. It’s far too important to make a snap decision about. I need more notice to give it the consideration it deserves’.

The next time you need to call on this, just say it with conviction – and then stay silent.

Learn how to handle rejection

Don’t let the word ‘no’ stop you from taking action. Programme yourself to take any rejection and turn it into an opportunity. Look for the success that’s within it. What would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail?

Adopt the habit of recognising the word ‘no’ as meaning ‘not yet’!

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