Self Esteem in Children (Part 2)

Posted by John on Dec 11, 2011 in build self-confidence, confident relationships | 0 comments

Continuing the theme from my previous post…

Children and teenagers with low self esteem will display a variety of traits, including:

• Being easily influenced by advertising or others.
• Avoiding new challenges for fear of failure.
• Becoming frustrated easily by setbacks.
• Blaming others when activities are unsuccessful.
• Disbelieving that (s)he has any talents or special abilities.
• Feeling unloved.

Promoting self esteem among children and teenagers is an incredibly important, and very easy, habit for parents to fall into. Staying positive and being generous with praise are two of the most important steps any adult can take to help promote a youngster’s self esteem.

• Be loving with your child, giving hugs and kisses regardless of achievements.
• Help your child set realistic, attainable goals.
• Praise your child for the effort, not for the outcome.
• Avoid criticising your child’s performance at a given task, and instead praise his/her enthusiasm or imagination.
• Encourage your child to engage in activities due to interest, not ability.
• Do not tolerate self criticism from your child. Help him/her focus on positive points.
• Lead by example. Do not criticise yourself in front of your children.
• Foster a caring environment at home by dispelling sibling rivalry.

While many children develop self esteem as they grow, for some children self esteem must be nurtured and tended. Parents are at the front line of promoting children’s self esteem, and while often their opinion is enough to make even the littlest chest swell with pride, some children may require more intense therapy. If needed, finding a family or child counsellor in your area may be the difference between a happy, healthy child and a depressed, downtrodden child. If you are worried about your child’s self esteem then don’t delay, begin your journey to a better life today!